When You Feel Lost and Alone: A Path Back to Yourself

There are times when the world feels like it’s moved on without you. When you’ve tried to fit in, tried to be enough, tried to hold it together—but inside, you feel like you're falling apart. You might carry the weight of rejection from people you once trusted, feel like you don’t belong anywhere, or wonder if there’s something wrong with you for feeling so empty.

You’re not alone in this.
And more importantly—you’re not beyond healing.

Feeling Lost Doesn't Mean You're Broken

Feeling lost and alone can come after years of hiding your pain, silencing your story, or surviving things you never asked for. It can come from being disconnected from your roots, your culture, your people, or your purpose. Maybe you’ve experienced trauma, moved away from home, been misunderstood, or been told you’re “too sensitive,” “too emotional,” or “not enough.”

Eventually, the disconnection adds up.
You stop reaching out.
You stop trusting.
You feel invisible—even to yourself.

But here’s something to remember: just because you feel lost doesn’t mean you are unworthy. It means you need a path—one that brings you back to what’s real, to what matters, and to who you are beneath all the pain.

Reaching Toward Healing: Culture as Medicine

When words run out and therapy feels too far away, sometimes the place to begin is with what your spirit already knows.

Many who feel lost find grounding by returning to the teachings and cultural practices of their ancestors. This doesn’t have to be something big. Sometimes, healing starts by lighting sage or cedar and letting yourself breathe. By listening to an Elder’s voice, whose stories carry generations of wisdom. By touching the earth, visiting the water, or singing a song that was once sung to heal. In the Healing through connecting to oursleves, by Milena Rodríguez who shares that healing already exists within us, that healing exists within langauge, dances, singing and traditions that are rooted from within our connection to water, trees, rocks and air. Rodriguez empahsises that earth with its elemtns are key understaidng of the nature and of what makes us in connection to water, forests, living creatures that walk with us on earth as refelctions of soul. 

Culture holds a memory of belonging that runs deeper than rejection.

Even if you’ve been disconnected for a long time, it’s never too late to reconnect. Healing doesn’t require you to be perfect. It only asks you to be open—to take small steps toward what feels true.

Therapy Can Walk Beside You

If you’ve ever felt too broken for therapy or thought, No one will understand where I come from, you’re not alone. But there are therapists—especially those grounded in trauma-informed and culturally safe approaches—who can sit with your pain without judging it. Who can walk with you without trying to fix you. Who can hold space while you remember who you are.

Therapy, when done with care and cultural understanding, can help you rewrite the story that says you’re not enough. It can give you tools to name what you’ve carried for so long. And it can remind you that you never had to do this alone.

You Are Not Alone. You Still Belong. You Matter

If no one has told you this lately:
You are allowed to feel lost.
You are allowed to fall apart.
But you are also allowed to heal, reconnect, and rise.

You belong, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.
There are people, teachings, and communities ready to welcome you back.
Back to yourself. Back to your truth. Back to a life where connection is possible again.

You are not forgotten.
You are not too far gone.
You are loved, and your journey isn’t over yet.

Words from the Elders

"When you feel like you’ve lost everything, that’s when the land speaks to you again. Sit with it. Let it remind you who you are."
Elder Watta, Coast Salish Territory

"We all carry pain, but healing happens when we stop carrying it alone."
Elder May, Cree Nation

"The drum is our heartbeat. When you forget your rhythm, go back to it. It will remind you how to live again."
Elder Rose, Anishinaabe

If you feeling alone and cannot get a hold of a loved one or a friend for support, please call these numbers:

National Emergency Mental Health Numbers: 988

BC Mental Health Support: 310

Indigenous Crisis Line: 1-855-242-3310 

 If you need to talk to a therapsit, please reach out to us and we would be hnoured to be part of your jouney

HÍSW̱ḴE (I hold my hands up to you) ~ Naamat Dickie 

Naamat s a Registered Clinical Counsellor who has been working with Indignous communites for more 18 years in varies capacities of social services and therapy incorperating client's cultural teachings and traditons with Western therapy.